Remorse adds a second stupid act to the first one
Enough. Because “More” is an endless horizon
Writers block is fear of bad writing
You have to do the bad writing
After enough writing? More bad writing. Persist.
Without worry, you may have arrived exactly where you are now and more pleasantly
Worry and fear are not tickets on the express train
They may be extra baggage – you were going that way anyway.
Your children just need time and presence
Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments
Fear looks, sounds and feels like control. Love feels like acceptance
Only judge the decision making process, not the outcomes
Remember, your imagined future success ladder can simply evaporate at any moment based on low probability life events actually occurring.
Father time is undefeated
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When we speak we are afraid to be judged
But when we are silent we are also afraid
So it is better to speak
– Audre Lorde
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Nearly everyone you meet is struggling in their own way, or looking for significance, or trying to do their best
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It seems across time and space, human beings have experience existential dread. We must find healthy ways to deal with it
We are now Gods but for the wisdom
Humans get tired. We’re supposed to get tired
Innovations that freaked us out:
Language , by design, may be a cunning way to hide one’s feelings. Can manipulate the mind to act against the heart
We are not people
We are the illusion of people
What we really are is interacting waves
Your mood is simply your specific neurotransmitter makeup at the moment
Unable to change the past. Looking forward to the future
We take opportunities but we don’t really know where life will take us
If you’re going to fail, fail daring greatly
Don’t be too timid. All life is an experiment
All the wonders of experience are not the point. Turn your attention back to the one who is experiencing
To the one who knows
To your consciousness itself, manifesting in different forms
You can become loving awareness
Which is a gateway to a new dimension of freedom
You are but the witness of things
Turn your attention from the experience to the mystery of the consciousness that is ever present: the one who knows, the knowing, the one who witnesses
Wisdom tells me I am nothing
Love tells me I am everything
Between these two my life flows
All you are is the one who is experiencing
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When you say no, you are only saying no to one option.
When you say yes, you are saying no to every other option.
No is a decision. Be careful what (and who) you say yes to. It will shape your day, your career, your family, your life.
Yes is a responsibility.
Be careful what (and who) you say yes to. It will shape your day, your career, your family, your life.
When pleasures are more occasional, they’re more pleasurable, and that’s reason enough to limit how often we indulge in them. Of course, all the usual reasons we exercise restraint—to save money, time, health, and the planet—only add to the rewards.
The more occasionally I indulge in something made just for pleasure, the more worthwhile it is when I do, and the better life is in every other respect. It’s cheaper, safer, healthier, freer.
It just seems like a better deal, and it’s there if we want it.
In this strange bubble, enormous marketing departments have had many decades to figure out how to deliver as large a volume of pleasure-inducing substances and services into our homes and routines as we will accept. This relentless pressure to take on treat upon treat, year upon year, has pushed the typical level of pleasure-consumption to a point far beyond what is actually most pleasurable for most of us.
This too, shall pass.
Nuclear winter notwithstanding, the cool thing is, technological advancement shows few signs of slowing down. Those in the future will likely always look back upon us as plebs
Ignore / Accept / Change. Those are always our 3 options
We give purpose to the universe
Not the other way around
“We” being any and every conscious being
Our goal should be retaining and or expanding biological and or artificial consciousness, rather than driving it extinct
Happiness is the new rich. Inner peace is the new success. Health is the new wealth. Kindness is the new cool.
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Employees over customers
were a people company that sells coffee not a coffee company that sells people
I’ve never met a company – have you?
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Self aggrandisement is equal to self pity
They’re both ego maniacal ways of thinking, narcissistic
You’re way too important in both scenarios
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Sheet of paper
Fold in half
This is what you perceive
Fold in half
This is what pay attention to
Fold
This is what you are interested in
Fold
This is what the brain makes into engrams
Fold
This is what you are able to access and recall later on
(Now a fraction of the original size)
Let’s make sure that last part is as big as possible at the end of this class
Is this the right path?
How will I know if or when I’m on the right path? Is there anyone here that will tell me?
We have so much uncertainty because we now have the (supposed) luxury of so much choice. Across all domains.
There are diminishing returns to increasing the amount of choice we have, in almost any domain. Meaning, it might be better to have to choose between 10 careers, then to have to choose between… say, 1000 potential careers.
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It’s all about the pain vs reward ratio for motivation
If you never think about the reward and only think about the pain
then the ratio is off and you’ll never be motivated to do the thing, and you will always procrastinate
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What legacy do I want to leave?
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Constantly pursuing positive experiences may make us feel worse. The unconscious subscript is that we whisper to ourself, “I am not enough. I am not enough without this experience. I need this experience to obtain some modicum of fulfillment.”
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Just remember, whatever path you’re on, it’s your path, and you can always change it. It just might take a long time (sometimes).
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That’s capitalism. And that’s what makes the world go round. It’s your hopelessness and the need to fill that void with something you can pay for. _ Mark Manson
Nearly all problems are imagined
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Subtle changes in perception can have large outcome based changes in reality
Remember John, life is happening for you, not to you
You are not the victim of your life, you are the protagonist
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There is no finish line
Progress is not the elimination of problems
Progress is the creation of new problems
Fear is a path to bliss and enlightenment
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Your brain is built for survival. It sees many things as threats. It’s just trying to keep you alive. It’s not built for constant happiness.
That does not mean, however, that we should not cultivate happiness.
Happiness, John, and it’s cultivation, is your job. Through your habits, you build a happy life.
Feeling like you have enough is a great feeling
Are your belongings real or imagined?
The most satisfying form of freedom is not a life without responsibilities, but a life where you are free to choose your responsibilities.
Try to keep up with the person you want to be John, rather than with the “Joneses”
“Money is our god
It’s like paper blood
It’s cuz we’re scared that this is it
When this is over there’s no coming back”
-Mike Tyson
There is no finish line
Progress is not the elimination of problems
Progress is the creation of new and better and more fulfilling problems
YOU CANNOT AWAKEN SOMEONE WHO IS PRETENDING TO BE ASLEEP
Your kids wont be what you want them to be. Are you what your parents wanted you to be?
Less failure doesn’t equal more success. More failure equals more success.
It’s easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than think yourself into a new way of acting.
What happens when you get all the money you think you want?
What do you do then? What does your ideal week look like?
You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do – David Foster Wallace