thoughts; both mine and other's

You have to be both. You have to be arrogant enough to think you can make it but NOT so egotistical that you stop learning

Fashion is about how it makes you feel, which literally affects your reality

The vast majority of your life may be bland and not noteworthy and that is okay

Life`s basic experiences – the pleasures of simple friendship, creating something, helping a person in need, reading a good book, laughing with someone you care about – these things are ordinary. In this case, whoever designed this reality knew what they were doing, because these ordinary things are things that matter – very much!

In the face of our certain, unavoidable death, there is little sense in not at least trying to accomplish all of our wildest dreams

Your brains is about 2 million years old and it is still designed to make you survive, not to make you happy

When there is no enemy within, there are far fewer without

The proliferation of possibility in modern life coupled with the emphasis on our freedom of choice makes it such that we blame ourselves excessively when we fail to choose wisely

All across time we’ve only had 24 hours in a day.

All across time. We all had the same amount of daily time to succeed.

You are only tending to be who you were yesterday. You can change who you are with pharmacology, serious crisis and/or various forms of meditation

Often, done is better than perfect

The relationship between security and adventure is a paradox to manage and not a problem to solve

Some problems have seemingly unreachable solutions. We should neither toil forever nor give up.

We suffer more often in imagination that in reality – Seneca the younger

Do you want to be right or do you want to be at peace?

We are impermanent

Enjoy the climb

clinging too tightly to past experience robs us from fully appreciating new experience

A mind stretched by a new experience can never go back to its former dimensions

“he has now become the person who he envisioned himself to be”

we don’t really know how we got here

we don’t really know why we’re here

we don’t really know where we’re going

So let’s be brothers and sisters on this dust spot suspended in a sun beam. let us hold hands and cry naked here and say that we’ll be there for one another. That will have to be enough for now.

try to let go John. Control is the master addiction

It’s more human nature that repeats itself than history

Try again fail again fail better

Make your grand mama proud

Performance authorizes alternative realities for the audience to get them to unsettle their conventional perceptions of the world

I am what I am because somebody loved me

Examples we make are predicated on examples we have

I am an extension of you

You are an extension of me

Don’t forget, you’re gonna live

Behavior is a combination of genetics and nurture/environmental factors

The journey is the goal

If I can breathe I can choose

“Everyone can learn to fight with Jiu Jitsu

But it’s about applying Jiu jitsu to your personal life, that part is more difficult”

“No, I have a goal and I’m going to reach it if it takes me to my last breath.”

“When you succeed you party but when you fail you ponder, and so most forward progress is born out of initial failure”

Courage is not evenly distributed in the species

Interesting. It seems Socrates never cried and Jesus never laughed.

Stop following only your passion and also follow what the market needs

We cannot accurately use AI to predict something that has never happened before. Unfortunately, we will never have data on actions not taken

Remember, if you choose not to decide you are still making a decision

Yes, you’re falling. The good news is, there’s no ground.

We must tend our own gardens before we insist others tend theirs

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Wolves don’t need to be eased into a wildlife relocation. They can be dropped anywhere and immediately they will start surviving.

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If you had to look at your life as a character, what would be the next character development step for you?

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Science of achievement but art of fulfillment

What are the things that are gonna fulfill you and the ones you love?

Make sure you carve out time for that cuz it’ll give you energy to everything else you want to deliver, create or achieve or give to the world

What fulfills us is different for every person

There are many people who seemingly have everything, yet they tragically take their own life

If you don’t find what fulfills you, it will be much harder to make a difference for anybody else

There’s no saber tooth tiger anymore. We now often turn things like what people will think about us or not having enough money in our bank accounts into literal life and death scenarios (I am by no means above or exempt from this type of thinking).

In the end, what else are you gonna do with your life? Perhaps something that makes you feel like your life is meaningful.

On a grand scale, nothing matters. On a zoomed-in scale, everything does.

Stop identifying with the mean voice in your head. It’s just trying to keep you alive

Your greatest talents are often right next to (metaphorically) your greats pains

You’re going to deal with it (whatever is going on in your head) whether you choose to explicitly deal with it or not

Your dreams are possible. My dreams are possible. Our dreams are possible

People are effective because they tactfully say no

“God” shall not have his work made manifest by cowards

You are 1% complete

Not keeping promises to oneself is a strong predictor of a future lack of self-confidence

Don’t believe everything you think

A wealth of information creates a poverty of attention

Life seems but a quick succession of busy nothings – Jane Austen

How have I been complicit in creating situations I say I don’t want?

We are never so defenseless as when we love, never so forlornly unhappy as when we have lost our love object or its love – Freud

A strange version of hell: at the end of your life, you meet the person you could have become

Awakening is when who we are is who we know we should be

Stubborn on vision but flexible on journey – Hans

Belief affects breathing

Happiness is not a zero-sum game

Maybe we need to struggle for meaning, we just need to struggle well. The satisfaction of success doesn’t come from achieving your goals but from struggling well – Ray Dalio

Be still, be silent, pay attention

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is the power to choose your response. In your response lies your growth and your freedom – Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

Despair = Suffering minus Meaning, presuming suffering is a constant that cannot be changed. Making efforts to augment meaning may necessarily decrease Despair.

Anxiety = Uncertainty times Powerlessness

Disappointment = Expectations minus Reality

Happiness equals

Wanting what we have (gratitude)

Divided by

Having what we want (gratification)

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Choose well. Your career, your friends, your mates, your investments. It’s often about choosing well.

Presuming we remain on a path of spiritual development, perhaps we should aspire to aging, when we may too often fear it

Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid – Friedrich Buechner

Notes and thoughts on love and life stemming from priests, gurus and sages, especially after a beautiful wedding:

Putting your life in your loves hands. That’s what we do in marriage. We put our lives in each other’s hands

Don’t just be.

Be the spouse your partner deserves

And honour them

and love them

The phase in a relationship where you’re not sure if you want to leave your partner or stay with them. The phase where you fight and break up. The phase where you then get back together. This phase is apparently common, and, if you do reunite, the subsequent connection is apparently deeper than the first, often leading to long-lasting, deep intimacy and connection

God (love) is looking through your partner’s eyes at you and through your eyes at your partner, but the ego creates the illusion that you’re separate people

And now, with this illusion of being separate, there’s a way for love to have currency, to interact with this reality

If god (love) was just looking at god (love) in the mirror, there’d be nothing to see, because god (love) is unconditional

God is unconditional love

When you look at someone else you see the illusion that there’s someone else there that you love. And because you direct your love to it, love (or god) now has currency. God then has the experience of loving god.

Through the illusion of individuality, thanks to the ego (I-ness) we have the ability to connect with the other (we-ness)

The more you learn to love yourself, the more you can love the other

The more you love the other (birds, bees, trees, nature, microorganisms and people) the more you realize you are the other

Becoming less suspicious of joy seems like a good strategy

It’s hard to move forward when trying to keep a foot in every door

Our ability to think and communicate is often limited by the limits of human language

Someone’s gotta love you enough to tell you the truth

“The only purpose of food is to act as a delivery vehicle for good quality olive oil.” – Steven Gundry

“This is a wonderful day, I have never seen this one before” – Maya Angelou

Doing a lot of things instead of doing the right things is a form of laziness

Building a start up often involves doing something that is statistically highly likely to fail, while on the other hand convincingly articulating to others why it is you think you’ll succeed

Il faut s’entourer des gens qui ont des cicatrices

If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete

No amount of money has ever bought a second of time

Then again, spending all of eternity without a single resource whatsoever (money, in this case), is likely a hellishly arduous path

No one counts your failures

The future is already here, it’s just not evenly visited

The future is a random walk. You can’t predict it. You can, however, draw the trend lines forward to get an idea of where things are headed

The impediment to action advances the action. What stands in the way becomes the way